As a parent of 2 boys, I personally know there is nothing more gratifying and fulfilling for a parent to be there when their kids step confidently up to the stage of sport and life and fully express their talent, drive, desire, and passion...and come through with flying colors!
When they have that kind of SOLID CONFIDENCE, you can see it in their body posture, their eyes and they can hear it in their voice, right?
You just know they are going to crush it and it's so exciting! (They know it too, as I've heard from hundreds of kids.)
Have you felt that sense of pride that fills your entire body when your kid comes off the field/court/arena with a huge smile, standing tall, and accepting the congratulations from everyone around in that bubble of absolute joy?
Doesn't that alone make all those trips to practices/games and money spent...More than worth it?
On the other hand... We also know, all too well, the DEEP HURT WE FEEL WITH THEM as we watch our kids STRUGGLE when they LACK CONFIDENCE AND UNDERPERFORM.
That hurt hits me right in the chest when I see that in my boys and I'm sure it's even worse for them. We know they have the skills and abilities.
We know they can do it, yet something just seems to go wrong inside their head and they don't get the success they want and have worked so hard for.
Often it happens right in front of us like a slow-motion train wreck and sometimes lasts a couple days... and it's really frustrating, as a parent, to helplessly watch that, isn't it?
We tell them what they need to do to improve but it feels like you're talking to a wall. Sometimes they even say back to you: "I'm fine" when you know they're not. This doesn't have to happen!
By the way, I practice what I preach for my own golf game and rec softball. Confidence on the tee or at the plate is everything!
Mental Toughness Trainer